It took me a while to finally get around to watching it but on Friday I watched Dope; a film about a geek growing up in a tough neighbourhood. I loved the film. It touched on a modern misconception that still holds some truth – you can only be one type of person and how you look shows people the type of person you are. This got me thinking about people’s assumptions of me.
I’ve been called rich
People seem to automatically assume that just because the inside of the house looks the way it does we all have sooo much money. No. My family is not rich and neither am I. Trust me, I’m clinging to my student discount more than anyone. Saving money has always been encouraged in my house. I may live at home still but every time I get paid I put money towards my parent’s mortgage and the food shopping.
I’ve been asked why I can’t keep a job
After graduating, I was doing temporary admin work for a year with two different agencies. So I moved around a lot gaining a transferable skillset in the process, I have a great work ethic, but temp work is just that… Temporary.
And I’ve been called antisocial and lazy
The odd time I’ll say no the whole world seems to shake. I know there are some instances where I’ll talk naps during the day but maybe I had a valid reason for saying no. Maybe I’m actually busy, maybe I don’t like where you’re going, or maybe I just don’t feel like going anywhere in the middle of the night without a plan. Either way don’t let my “no thanks” offend you.
I’ll hold my hands up and say that I love the inside of my house more because 1) my bed is there and 2) I can always find food. This doesn’t mean I don’t work hard and if I enjoy something I put in the work and make more of an effort; I’m sure this is the same with most people.
Watching Dope reminded me about all of this. In the final part of the film, the main character, Malcolm, says:
“For most of my life I’ve been caught in between who I really am and how I’m perceived”
I think this can be said for most people. Whether we’re looking at the way people dress, the type of job they do, a person’s demeanour or the inside of their house, in 2016 we are naturally judgmental. It’s something that although most people are getting better at, it still happens and it probably always will. Although they annoy me, I make a point of challenging the stereotypes that people have made about me, and it seems that when I ask someone to explain how they got to that assumption they have no answer. Funny that.
Maybe it’s just my argumentative ‘but why?’ nature because I’m all about proving people wrong, smashing the glass ceilings and breaking down the walls that people put up when putting you in a tiny little box.
So, until they can find that answer, why play up to people’s stereotype and assumptions of you?
I’ve never been one for ‘about me’ pages so let's keep it short and sweet: I'm 25 (so I guess you could assume I'm going through a quarter-life crisis), London-based, love food, oh, and partial to a rum-based drink... or just the rum tbh.